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The subject of the several women in the life of Charles Dickens might at first glance seem an unusual theme to build a biography around, but this fairly brief but penetrating book serves its purpose well. The author’s foreword begins by telling us that Dickens was a man who ''craved a love so unconditional that the yearning was unlikely to be satisfied in this world, a man in thrall to a vision of a womanhood so idealized that it was incompatible with everyday domesticity''.

Dickens had four brothers and three, possibly four sisters. During his adolescent years , he seems to have been at the centre of several family disagreements - for reasons which remain somewhat involved, not to say unclear- as a result of which he became jealous of his much-adored sister Fanny, and nursed a powerful grudge against his mother.

His wife bore him ten children, but husband and wife soon drifted apart. He was by no means immune to the charms of other women, and at the age of 45 , he made the acquaintance of Nelly Ternan, an actress who was still then in her teens. He was immediately smitten, and the rift in the Dickens' marriage eventually widened into separation and a public statement by him in The Times, although any thought of divorce was out of the question. It caused considerable bitterness within the family, and according to his daughter Katey, ""''He did not care a damn about what happened to any of us. Nothing could surpass the misery and unhappiness of our home.""''

For some time, a certain amount of mystery surrounded his liaison with Ternan. Was it a full-blown love affair between two people, or was Dickens merely the protector and platonic lover of an innocent young girl, and one who helped to look after her widowed mother and fatherless sisters? According to Katey, the couple had a son in secret who died in infancy. Ternan later admitted to the local parish priest that she had indeed been the author’s mistress, but remorse made them both miserable, and that she now ""''loathed the very thought of this intimacy""''. This information was kept a closely-guarded secret, and did not find its way into print until 1935, after the last of Dickens’s Dickens's children had died.

As a biography of Dickens, this short book makes an interesting read, and I was particularly grateful for the six-page chronology of his life which follows the final chapter. It does , however , leave a certain amount unexplained, in that the author speculates but is unable to put her finger on the exact causes of the estrangement between the author and his mother, then later with his wife. Nevertheless , it reveals that he was a complex, many-sided character with perhaps unrealistic expectations (a case of ''too great expectations'', perhaps?) from those in his life. In this case, the artistic temperament of a creative yet restless soul evidently did not have the makings of a good and faithful husband. As the last sentence reads, ""''Charles Dickens would always have wanted more""''.

For further reading, may we recommend [[The Christmas Books by Charles Dickens]], or for a life of one of his contemporaries, [[Thackeray by D J Taylor]]. If a fictional account of Dickens' wife appeals, then you should have a look at [[Far Above Rubies by Anne-Marie Vukelic]].

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